I Do Believe

To hear this father properly, it helps to know the book he lives in. Mark is the shortest of the four Gospels and, on the view most scholars hold, the earliest, written in plain, hurried Greek that reads more like an eyewitness catching his breath than a careful essay. Early Christian tradition, passed down through Papias and quoted by the historian Eusebius, links the book to John Mark recording what Peter preached. I hold that lightly, the way the early church did, as memory rather than proof, but it fits the feel of the writing. Mark loves the word “immediately”, using it again and again to keep the action moving, and you will spot it right at the start of our verse. Nothing here is staged or smoothed over. This is a Gospel in a rush: crowds press in, an unclean spirit cries out, the disciples keep missing the point. So when a frantic father blurts out a half-finished prayer, he is not breaking the mood. In a way he is the mood. Mark’s whole book moves at the pace of a real, panicked human life, and the verse sits exactly where it belongs.

This cry does not happen in a vacuum. Read the few verses before it and you find a small disaster unfolding. Jesus has been up the mountain at the Transfiguration, and while he is gone the other disciples have tried to free this boy and failed. By the time Jesus comes back there is an argument breaking out, scribes wading in, a crowd gathering to watch. The father has already had his hopes raised by the disciples and then dashed. He is not coming to Jesus fresh and expectant. He is coming after a let-down, carrying a boy he has watched suffer since childhood. I think that detail matters enormously. We sometimes imagine the people Jesus helped as wide-eyed and certain. This man is the opposite. His faith has been knocked about by other people’s failures, by years of watching, by a believing attempt that simply did not work. And it is into that worn-down state, not out of some pristine confidence, that the honest prayer comes.

Look closely at the actual shape of what he says, because it is stranger and braver than we usually notice. In the Greek, “believe” and “unbelief” share the same root, pist-, so faith and the lack of it stand side by side in one sentence. He does not merely say his faith is small, though it plainly is. He goes further and names the unbelief mixed in with it, and then he does something I find quietly astonishing. He asks Jesus to help him with the very doubt he has just confessed. The word for “help” here is the ordinary, urgent cry for aid, the kind you would use in real trouble. So this is not a tidy theological statement. It is a man treating his own unbelief as one more thing he cannot fix and must hand over. That is the bit it is easy to miss. He does not work up belief and then approach Jesus. He brings the doubt itself to Jesus and asks him to deal with it.

There is a thread running through Scripture that this verse pulls tight. Again and again, what rescues people is not the size of their faith but the One they put it in. The bronze serpent in the wilderness and the look that healed (Numbers 21), Peter sinking and grabbing Jesus’ hand (Matthew 14:31), the apostles asking Jesus to increase their faith (Luke 17:5): the pattern holds. Faith is only ever as good as its object, and this father’s object is exactly right even when his confidence is not. Jesus has just spoken of what is possible for the one who believes (Mark 9:23), and rather than collapse under that, the man hands the unbelief straight back to the only person who can do anything with it. This is where the verse points to Christ most clearly. He is not a teacher who grades our faith and rewards the top of the class. He is the one who holds onto us when we have let go. Even our believing, in the end, is something he carries us into rather than something we manufacture and present.

I keep coming back to how honest this is, because most of my own praying is not as clean as I would like it to look. There is a version of me that can sing on a Sunday with real conviction, and another version, awake at three in the morning over a diagnosis or a child who has wandered off from God, who is not at all sure I believe much. For a long time I thought the wakeful, frightened version had to be hidden, that I needed to sort my doubts out privately before I was allowed to pray properly. This father tells me otherwise. He prays the divided heart out loud, with tears, in front of a crowd, and Jesus does not flinch. So now, when I cannot say a confident “I believe” and mean it all the way down, I borrow his words instead. “I believe. Help my unbelief!” It turns out that is not a lesser prayer. It might be the most truthful one I have. And the boy was healed, not because the father reached some threshold of certainty, but because he brought what little he had to the right person.

Go back one line further and you catch a detail that is easy to skim past. When the father first begs for help, he hedges, asking Jesus to do something if he possibly can (Mark 9:22), as though he is already bracing for another disappointment. And Jesus catches that small word. He takes the man’s own “if you can” and hands it straight back to him (Mark 9:23), not to shame him but to draw the doubt into the open. Instead of bluffing past it, the father owns the hesitation his own request had let slip. He names the gap rather than papering over it. Jesus will not let the polite “if” stand, and the father stops pretending it was never there.

I used to think a prayer only counted once I had sorted my believing out and could offer God something whole. This father shows me a smaller, truer way in. He does not wait until the doubt clears. He says the faith he has, cracked and partial as it is, out loud where everyone can hear, and that turns out to be the prayer. Faith with cracks in it is still faith, and Jesus answers it. So when all I can manage is a thin “I do trust you, sort of”, I say even that, plainly, and let him take it from there.

I have heard this cry welded onto the mustard seed saying (Matthew 17:20) to account for a prayer that went unanswered. The logic runs: nothing is impossible to faith, so if nothing happened, the fault must sit somewhere in the believing. Mark will not carry it. The one man here who gets what he asks for is the man who has just announced that his faith is full of holes, and Jesus does not pause to top him up first. I can hear the corridor conversation afterwards, someone gently wondering whether the family prayed hard enough, and it makes me want to put my hand through a wall. That is not a stretch of the passage. It is the passage inside out.

There is a quieter misuse, and I have been guilty of this one. Help my unbelief makes a very comfortable permanent address. Say it often enough and it comes to mean I no longer expect anything, and isn’t God pleased with my honesty. The father is not moving in. He says it once, at the top of his voice, so that somebody else will take the thing off him.

Every talk I have sat through on this verse stops at the cry, as though the confession were the ending. It is not. Jesus orders the spirit out (Mark 9:25), and the boy convulses and then lies so still that most of the crowd say flatly that he is dead (Mark 9:26). Whatever that looked like, it did not look like a rescue. Then Jesus takes him by the hand and lifts him, and he stands up (Mark 9:27).

If I were building a talk on this, I would give that half the time, not a closing sentence. Beat one: a father says his doubt out loud. Beat two: the boy lies there like a corpse and the answer briefly resembles a funeral. Beat three: Jesus reaches down anyway. Stop at help my unbelief and you have told a room that honesty is welcome, which is true and nowhere near enough. Carry them to verse 26 and you hand them something to stand on when an answer arrives looking like the opposite.

There is a fourth beat, indoors with the door shut. The disciples ask why they could not do it, and Jesus says this kind comes out only by prayer and fasting (Mark 9:28 to 29). Say the awkward thing plainly to your group: some of the oldest manuscripts stop at prayer, which is why the Bibles in the room will differ on the fasting. Either way, it is not a technique he hands them. After all that shouting in the road, the missing thing was the work nobody ever watches you do.

This belongs in a room where people are trying to pray and not managing it. A prayer meeting that has gone thin and quiet. A small group where someone finally says they are not sure anybody is listening, and the room goes still. A service of confession, where what people need is permission to say the true thing instead of the impressive one. I would read it just before communion as well, because coming as you are is the entire thing this father does.

I would not read it at a bedside where the healing has not come, and I would think hard before taking it into a healing service at all: a frightened person kneeling at the front will hear if only you believed properly, whatever words actually leave my mouth. Nor would I ever send it to a struggling friend as a nudge, pray like the father did, because that turns his honesty into a method and the one thing he never had was a method. If you use it, use it on yourself first, out loud, and let them hear you do it. That is the only way I know to stop it becoming a stick.

Back up past the mountain and you find something I read straight over for years. One chapter earlier, at Bethsaida, a blind man is brought to Jesus and the healing does not take first time. Jesus touches his eyes, and the man says he can see people, but only as shapes, “like trees walking” (Mark 8:24). It takes a second touch before he sees faces. I cannot find another healing in the Gospels that arrives in two stages like that, though I would rather tell you plainly that I looked and stopped there than pretend I have read every line of all four books with that one question in mind. What I am sure of is where Mark puts it. It sits on the hinge of his whole book, just before Peter says out loud that Jesus is the Christ (Mark 8:29), and just before Peter hears that this Christ must suffer and die, argues with him about it, and gets called Satan for his trouble (Mark 8:31 to 33). So look at what we have been handed in a row. A man who sees blurred shapes before he sees faces. A disciple who gets the answer exactly right and has understood almost nothing about the cost of it. Then this father, who does not claim the clean single-focus faith Peter claimed and did not have, but says out loud that his sight is smeared. Peter’s confidence was total and wrong. This man’s faith is half made and pointed the right way, which is the only safe direction for half-made faith to point.

We read “cried out with tears” and picture something private, a man with his head in his hands. There is nothing private about it. The scribes are arguing loudly enough that Jesus asks what the row is about the second he walks up (Mark 9:16), and by verse 25 people are running in to see. He says the worst true thing about himself into that. Someone always wants to stop here and settle whether the boy was ill or afflicted, and I understand why: the convulsions, the grinding teeth, the foaming (Mark 9:18, 20) sit right alongside the words unclean spirit, and we want a referee. Nobody in the scene wants one. That is our question, brought in from outside, and I gave up years ago trying to make this father’s afternoon answer it. What is actually in front of us is exposure. He is not confiding in a friend across a kitchen table where it can be taken back. He is handing a sentence to men who have just watched Jesus’ own followers try on his son and fail, in public, and who would love a fresh piece of evidence. Say “help my unbelief” in a room like that and you have given something away you cannot retrieve. A whispered prayer costs nothing of the kind. I think that is a good part of why Mark bothers to tell us the man was weeping when he said it.

I cannot read this healing without hearing, somewhere behind it, the story Mark told three chapters earlier. John the Baptist sits in Herod’s prison and loses his head at a party because a girl danced well (Mark 6:17 to 29). Luke tells us elsewhere that John’s mother and Mary were relatives (Luke 1:36); Mark never mentions it and does not need to. Nobody prays “help my unbelief” over John. Nobody needed to. His faith was never the weak link, and he is not rescued anyway, in the very same short book that a few chapters later stands a boy on his feet because his father cried out. I have no way of making those two afternoons agree, and I have grown suspicious of people who say they do. Here is what I keep coming back to. Mark chose both. He did not think the healing cancelled the prison, or that the prison turned the healing into a lie, and he did not add a paragraph reconciling them for us. He puts them a few pages apart and leaves them there, rubbing against each other. That is more honest than most of what I have heard preached off this verse, and it is the reason I trust the book. If you have prayed these exact words over a bed where nothing changed, Mark does not pretend it never happened to anybody else. It happened in his own pages, to the man who had baptised Jesus himself (Mark 1:9).

Children get to the dangerous question here faster than adults do. Tell a class that the boy got better because his dad said he believed even while he did not really, and a sharp seven-year-old puts her hand up and asks what happens if you believe and it does not work. She is not being clever. She has somebody in mind, usually a grandmother, and she wants to know now. I would not slide past it. I would say this is one true story about one boy on one afternoon, and that Jesus never once tells this father his believing bought the healing. He takes what the man actually had, holes and all, and does something with it. The picture I use with the younger ones is a wobbly bridge instead of a strong-looking one: you do not need it to feel solid underfoot, you need it to be solid, and this dad’s bridge felt like it was giving way the whole way across and did not. Then I stop, and I do not tie the bow. Tying it means making a promise the Bible has not made, and children keep promises like that for thirty years and hold them up to you at a funeral. Leaving it open is horrible. Saying “I don’t know why, and I’m not going to pretend” to a child looking straight up at you in a church hall is one of the harder things I have had to do. It is still the kinder one.

There is very little weeping in Mark, which is partly why this father’s tears snagged me. A crowd wails outside Jairus’ house (Mark 5:38), and mourners weep in the longer ending (Mark 16:10), but of individual people who simply break, I can find two: this man, and Peter, after the third denial, when the cock crows and it lands on him (Mark 14:72). One honest wrinkle before I make anything of it. Some of the older manuscripts do not carry the words “with tears” at 9:24 at all, which is why the Bibles on your shelf will not agree about them, and I would not build a sermon on a phrase that might not have been there. What survives either way is the pairing. Both men come apart over the same thing, the distance between what they said about themselves and what they turned out to be able to do. The father measures that distance himself, out loud, in front of hostile witnesses, before anything has gone wrong. Peter has his measured for him, in a courtyard, after the words are already out of his mouth and cannot be got back. I find that bracing rather than bleak. The father shows me there is a version of this available in advance, that you can say the true thing while people are still watching and the boy is still on the ground, instead of saving it up for a doorway at dawn on your own.

• Where in my life do I quietly assume something is “too big” for God, even while I trust him with the small things?
• What would change if I stopped trying to fix my doubt before I prayed, and simply handed the doubt itself to Jesus?
• Whose failure or let-down has worn my faith thin, and have I ever told God about that honestly?
• Can I pray the father’s prayer today, out loud, exactly as it is, without tidying it up first?

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